A Litte Bit About Me...

Life as I know it...

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The last three years have been enlightening.  About five years ago, I was so miserable but thought that it was just how life was going at the moment and that it would get better.  I begged God to end it.  He did just that.  Three years ago, I left my ex-husband.  It wasn't at my doing.  He wanted me to leave, I left.  I thought that he needed some space and time, but he played me in that year of separation.  He showed me his true colors and that definitely slammed the door shut on that toxic relationship.  

Two years ago, I was let go from my job of 14 years as a legal assistant/paralegal.  It "just wasn't working out" but I got an ok severance and they paid my health insurance for a bit.  When I had left my ex-husband, I went back to work for the company that I worked for before the firm.  I needed extra money and they took me back as an assistant manager.  I've worked my way to being General Manager.  I was GM of one location, they then moved me to being GM of two locations. I love this job, always had.  I really didn't want to leave to work for the law firm, but here I am...back and slaying it.

Almost 3 years ago, I got a DWI.  I thank God everyday that it was for speeding and that I did not hurt anyone in any way.  That night, I asked a friend to drive me home, but he thought that I was ok to drive home.  Yeah, I wasn't, obviously.  I blew a .201 that night.  I went to jail.  When I got out, I went to another friend who is a defense attorney and he helped me get into diversion.  I took every opportunity to take advantage of diversion as that was my rock bottom.  Life had thrown too many curve balls my way at once and I did not know how to handle it.  I mean, how do you grieve the loss of someone who is still alive?  I did not see the separation coming.  Totally blindsided.  Then add that I had to put my dog of 15 years down.  My daughter graduating from high school and going away to college... So in that, my diversion counselor put me into women's group therapy which I still see my therapist on an individual basis.  I've come a long way.  I did everything that I was court ordered to do.  I have an arrest on my record, but not the charge.  In sharing my story with people, they tell me that I am in inspiration, but it was life and the path that I had to go down to be where I am today. 

Where I am today?  As I already mentioned, I am General Manager of two out of 35 corporate owned bars in the New Orleans area.  There are MANY outside the state of Louisiana.  There are three of us who have two locations, the rest only have one.  I plan on either going up to corporate as a paralegal and/or may take the opportunity to go down to Cozumel and work at one of those locations.  I'm going down in November for a week for vacation, so I may check that out as my friend has the ones down there.  Need to brush up on my Spanish.  I love my job.  About a year and and half ago, I met an amazing man.  Our timing was off, but the last seven months, we've been exclusive.  A few weeks ago, he told me that he loves me.  Scared me because I feel the same, but was scared to say it.  Now... I have no issues telling him.  We built a friendship before we got serious.  He's my best friend.   

I am not the person that I was when I was married.  I am a much better version of myself and I fought hard to become the woman that I am today.  I am out of two toxic situations and I thank God that he did it the way that he did it because I would have NEVER done it on my own.  He slammed two doors shut that I could not do on my own.  In that, two doors opened and I haven't been happier.  I do miss my ex-inlaws, but He puts me in situations where I do run into them from time to time and I get to catch up with them.  One that I was close to, I have nothing to do with.  Not by choice. 

I am a better person for all that I have gone through.  I did the work to get to where I am.  I truly do love my life and those who are in it.  I'm still a work in progress as we all are and life isn't easy, but I am truly enjoying the path that God put me on as well as the man who he put into my life.  You only live this life once, right?